What to expect from a tantric massage as a woman

If you decided to book your first tantric session and you feel a bit anxious about what will happen, here’s your step by step guide:

The Welcoming

Once you booked and arrived to our premises, you will be welcomed by one of our therapists.

The Massage setting

The session will take place in a beautiful and intimate atmosphere. The therapy room will be warmed up before your arrival so the ambiance of the environment you receive the massage is calming and relaxing in every aspect.

We will use natural candles to create serenity along with aromatherapy from essential oil diffusers.

Relaxing music is often played to provide a serene audio background and complete sensory experience.

The Consultation

You will be offered a drink (tea or water) and invited for a conversation with the therapist before your session starts.

This is very important for both parties to understand what is expected or included in the session so no misunderstandings occur.

It’s also a great opportunity to get to know each other and see where you’re at in your life. Also, in the consultation part you will discuss the boundaries and the therapist will explain how she will hold space, make you feel safe and guide you through the session.

Preparing

You will be invited to take a shower before you begin. That’s partly seen as a “purification ritual” where you prepare not only the body but also your senses for the session and also seen as a standard hygiene practice. At this point you should use the toilet if required. Once you came back from the shower, the therapist will invite you to remove your towel/sarong and lay down naked on the mattress.

If you don’t feel comfortable with being naked, you may keep as much clothes on as you prefer.

Lubrication

At the Ocean we use only good quality, hypoallergenic natural oil that is preheated to remain warm. Sometimes essential oils can also be added into the massage oil mix to include aromatherapy benefits for your session.

If you have any allergies to essential oils, please let us know in advance.

What actually happens in a tantric massage?

Although there is a basic structure, all our tantric sessions are slightly different and unique, custom made and adapted to your needs and life circumstances.

However, there are some general lines and this is what your tantric massage would involve:

Grounding Touches

You will usually start by lying face down with a towel or sarong over your body. Your therapist will start with grounding touch movements or presses which are mostly performed with the hands and arms. These are designed to awaken your senses and bring your energy from your head to your body through blunt pressure, stretching the muscles and generating blood flow throughout the body.

Energy Spread

Once the towel or sarong is removed, your therapist will begin to massage the back of your body, using warm oil in a flowing motion. You will experience a wonderful touch sensation on your back, shoulders, and arms all the way down to your buttocks and rear thighs. Your therapist will spread your energy all over you body from head to toe, activating your life force.

Erotic Awakening

At this point, your therapist will begin to use other parts of her body to caress and stimulate you, as arms, elbows, legs.

Your therapist’s hands will caress every part of you, edging nearer to your lower buttocks and inner thighs.

Turning Over

When asked, you will turn over to lay on your back. If you need, the therapist will bring pillows to support your head.

You are now in a position that exposes you pelvic area to the therapist. This is a very vulnerable position and most women prefer to have their eyes closed while on their back. The therapist will gently massage your belly, chest and breasts (if agreed from the beginning).

The Yoni Massage

At this point, the therapist will focus the attention on your genitals and will ask again if you wish to receive the yoni massage. It is important that you decide according to what feels right for you in that moment.

Please remember that it’s OK to change your mind and not take the yoni massage if you don’t fell comfortable. It’s OK to say NO and to stop your therapist at anytime.

However, if you agreed to receive yoni massage, it will start with a gentle touch of the outer area of your yoni, followed by a loving and respectful massage of the inner part of your yoni, with finger(s). The therapist will use different techniques that are designed to build up your arousal and bring energy to your genitals. These may be sensations that you have never felt before and can be extremely pleasurable!

The Intense point

As you already read before, the orgasm is not a goal in an authentic tantric massage.

What we encourage you is to stay present and observe your sensual energy raising up and moving through your body.

This flow of energy might end up in a physical orgasm, emotional release, burst of joy or crying, relaxation or whatever form of expression. All and everything you bring out is welcomed.

The cooling down

Once the intensity of the energy becomes softer, the therapist will focus the attention in closing down the session with a head massage that is deeply relaxing and grounding.

You will then be covered with the sarong and allowed to integrate the experience.

The sharing

After you came back to your senses, you are invited to share a bit about your experience. Some women like to do it, some others prefer to keep quiet and let it sink inside.

You are now ready to face the world again, with fresh energy and open heart.